Im the same way. I always tell a bottom i will take it easy, so he can let his guard down. Once that dick is in your ass im going to pound you ass hard as i can
This is how I lost my " anal cherry ". Said he would be "gentle"......he lied. He pinned me down and violently pounded my virgin asshole like a madman, the whole time saying " take my big dick bitch boy, let me have your fucking ass bitch!! ". He didn't wear a condom, and dumped what felt like a GALLON of cum deep in my guts. He just left me there on the hotel bed, leaking his babies for hours. All he said to me was, " Thanks for letting me destroy your hole " , and walked out.